I'm Having a Social Networking Crisis!

I’m having a social networking crisis.

This whole thing has kind of crept up on me. It started out as a distant rumble and ultimately turned into a major seismic event. I ignored Twitter and Facebook and Plaxo (remember them?) as long as I could but, then, the overwhelming peer pressure to play the game made me get my head out of the sand.

I approached it very cautiously. I couldn’t understand why someone would feel compelled to tell everyone that he went to the grocery store or picked up the kids from a soccer game. And, what such trivia had to do with anything related to business. It was no longer possible to catch up with someone only once a year at an annual event (which satisfied me just fine). Now I was forced to be aware of what people I barely knew were doing all year long. Too much information.

But, who am I to buck the trend? I joined Facebook and LinkedIn and Twitter and Tumblr and immediately began to build my network. This is where my crisis began.

Each of them has a similar way of “friending” someone. They give you a choice between “colleague” and “friend” (except Facebook which uses more of a social model, hence everyone is considered a “friend”) and there’s the dilemma.

When I ask someone to join my network I have to decide how to classify him. I’m always afraid that I will insult someone by picking the wrong option. What if, for example, I want to invite a close business acquaintance? Do I pick colleague or friend? If I’ve known him for years I think of him as a friend but I’ve never seen him socially so I guess he’s a colleague. But, what will he think if I call him a colleague and he thinks of me as a friend? It’s happened to me on the receiving end, where someone called me a colleague and I was slightly taken aback because I thought we were closer than that.

I’ve actually had someone accept my invitation and change the classification from colleague to friend (which I considered a promotion). I dread the day when someone changes me from friend to colleague. The demotion would be devastating.

I’ve decided we need a better classification system. More friending options than we currently have. Here are some suggestions:

BUSINESS FRIEND (NON-BUSINESS) – Some of my best friends over the years have been through business. I value them as much as I do my social friends and they’d be insulted if I fail to acknowledge them when I make this important decision. But don’t take advantage of my decision and start trying to sell me something.

BUSINESS FRIEND (BUSINESS) – Okay if you try to sell me something occasionally. This classification can easily drop to COLLEAGUE I DO BUSINESS WITH if I get a sales call more than once a year.

BUSINESS FRIEND (WITH BENEFITS) – Someone I know through business who has tickets to things or a boat.

BUSINESS FRIEND (PROBATIONARY) – Someone who was previously a colleague but is moving up to business friend because he sent me a referral. If I get another he’ll shed the probationary label. Also used if he’s buying a boat or condo at the lake.
COLLEAGUE – Someone I met once at Business After Hours. I don’t remember what he looks like but I have his business card.

COLLEAGUE EVERYONE WANTS – Someone who I don’t know very well but who looks impressive to others.

COLLEAGUE WHO CALLS ME WHEN HE NEEDS SOMETHING – Someone who’s my best buddy when he wants me to raise bail money to get out of some silly jail fund raiser.

COLLEAGUE I WANT TO LINK TO JUST TO PACK MY NETWORK – Someone I invite to join me because it’s embarrassing to have too few people on my contact list.

COLLEAGUE I DON’T CARE FOR – This is a great way to know where people you don’t like are going to be so you can avoid them.

I think that our culture would benefit from much better understanding between social networking buddies. It creates honesty where today we have deceit.

Ashton Kutcher eat your heart out.

rjs

It's So Simple

Most people will look at a credit card and see only the ease and convenience with which they can painlessly get the things they want. It’s so simple – right? Every commercial on TV keeps telling you about how much “you deserve it” and with a simple swipe of the credit card, you can be suddenly whisked away by a gaggle of men in tuxedos into an awaiting limousine to be treated like “you deserve”.

When asked to list their debts, most people fail to list their credit cards. They list their mortgage, car notes and other installment loans but leave credit cards off of the list. Too many households in America carry far too much credit card debt and know very little about it.

A great many people have no idea what interest rate is being charged by their credit card companies or how the interest is calculated. In a recent study, 75% of Americans indicated that they carry a “substantial” balance on their credit cards while only 41% indicated that they have a savings account.

Paying interest on a credit card means that everything that you purchase with that card costs you more than it would have cost if you had simply paid cash or written a check for it. The best rule is to pay as you go but if you use your credit cards, pay off the balances before the interest charges are added!

Three Stupid Reasons for Not Saving Money

"I deserve to buy “insert item here” because I work hard and I deserve it."

We hear this one all of the time. It comes from an immature attitude and one that will lead you into a place where you have a whole lot of stuff that you don’t need and a lifestyle that will eventually have you living in your son’s basement! Believe me, I am not advocating that you never buy something that you “want” but make it part of your plan. Saving a little bit of money from each paycheck will start adding up quickly. Take some of your windfall cash (tax returns and gift money) and stash away half of it and blow the rest.

"I’m young. I can start saving money later."

Another immature statement! Start when you are young and enjoy the mathematical explosion of compound interest. I have review chart after chart for saving money and every single one of them show that starting a lifestyle of saving money early in life will bring you financial freedom. Save $2,000 a year beginning at age 20 and do it for 6 years – never save another dime – and you will have more than $1,000,000 by the time you are 65! The problem is that “life” happens and we tend to dip into that money for “stuff” and it never makes it until we retire. Start young and begin a lifestyle of savings.

"I don’t make enough money to save anything."

If you have a job and earn a paycheck, you can start saving some money. Start small and put back $5 from each paycheck. You won’t even miss $5! Suddenly you will look at your account and realize that you have a few hundred dollars. Work up to a little more and start putting back 15% of each check. Slowly and gradually, you will amass a small fortune.

How nice would it be to not have to worry about money? YOU are your greatest obstacle. Step out of the way and change the way you are doing things now and learn to save a few bucks! You will be glad that you did.

mah